Saturday, 31 August 2019

You Are Only as Young (Or Old) as You Think You Are.

You are never too young or old to test your memory
In the summer of 2016 popular Vietnamese born poker player William Vo finished in fifth place in the highly prestigious WPT Legends of Poker tournament.
Hardly a staggering figure in the world of poker these days, but is so when you consider that Vo was 77 years old at the time he won the prize.
A former teacher Vo exuberated confidence and great joy of life during the tournament and endeared himself even more to not only the  hundreds of poker players competing in the tournament, the fans in the crowd but all members of the senior community who were egging him on on television when he confessed when he picked us his six-figure check that the main reason that he took up poker after retiring  was to keep his memory in active.
Through these achievements and words, William Vo had set a tremendous example to his peers by competing and doing extraordinarily well in this tournament, one of the many that he has competed in before.
In the past VO Had picked up a few prizes before his big day but none approaching this scale. Never losing his obvious enthusiasm, William Vo continues to compete in online tournaments as he rapidly approaches his eightieth birthday.
Only an elite few members of the senior citizen community are liable to possess the mental and physical capacities to compete in a major televised poker tournament or other similar mental and physical challenges.
Most seniors will be prepared to set their sites considerably lower.
They want to still enjoy the mental stimulation of competing against friends and family, 
Companionship may be important to them than major cash prizes.   
They are equally entitled to enjoy the positive results of major advances in computer software technology, belying the majority view that internet savvy is the exclusive right restricted to those in their early teens up to the last of the baby boomers, in other words, those born in the immediate post-war years  up their Nineteen Fifties.
On the other end of the scale, it is becoming increasingly common knowledge that the average infant’s brain is already fully developed around the age of five. This once almost inconceivable discovery means that young children, even before kindergarten age,  are capable of functioning conceptually, can remember facts and figures, and have a much larger vocabulary than first thought.
Parents of children of any age, as well as those who care for the well-being of the senior’s community, are absorbing this exciting fact.
Through the power of information technology, they can help their loved ones acquire the mental stimulation that will build them solid foundations to help them in later life.
One of the latest and more important developments in software technology is a new app custom designed to enhance the memories of people of all ages.
All that is required to take advantage of this breakthrough all that is needed is a smartphone, tablet or computer and an internet link to access the free memory game.
What makes the free memory game so attractive is that players can custom design their own memory game by incorporating either numbers or images or a mixture of them both.
Any permutation is certain to keep the player's attention and help them to develop their cognitive skills.
This memory game, which is totally free of charge,  is sweeping the internet thanks to its ability to allow players to custom design their own memory game through incorporating either numbers or images or a mixture of them both.
Those who have the best interests of their loved ones at heart can make this happen by providing them with the mental stimulation that only customizable memory games can bring.Here is the link 

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Friday, 30 August 2019

Taco Bell employee's act of kindness goes viral: He makes a customer feel welcomed and understood

To Change Your Life, Change Your Environment

To Change Your Life, Change Your Environment

Each year, millions of Americans relocate - some for work, some for family, and some for school. Regardless of the reason, moving is a major life event. For me, it became more than a new location, it became an opportunity, though I didn’t realize it at first.
My husband’s announcement that he had been promoted, but would need to relocate 200 miles away, filled me with panicked questions. How would the kids cope? Would I meet people? How am I going to get an entire house packed?
My dread persisted until coffee with my neighbor, Joy, another stay at home mom who’d moved to town three years prior. As we sat and sipped, I admitted to her my anxiety, but Joy’s response was not what I expected.

“Moving was the best thing that could have happened to my family.”

Saying Goodbye to More than Just Your Home

Nearly every day people repeat approximately 40% of their activities in the same locations. We develop routines, and, slowly but surely, habits set in. With repetition, these habits take hold, and even though we might set a goal to break them, our brain won’t cooperate. However, it has been found that a new place can assist in the breaking of habits. Without the triggers of a familiar location, it is easier to start and maintain healthier behaviors.
It’s not just habits that we need to bid farewell. Sometimes there are unhealthy relationships. In Joy’s former town, she spent time with a group of women whom she had known for years. They took their children to the park together and met for drinks from time-to-time. However, Joy struggled with the group. She constantly felt pressure to meet these women’s standards and she hated all the gossiping. They were cruel and petty, and Joy felt trapped. Moving gave her a chance to break ties and establish a new more supportive group of friends.

Embracing the New

Our brains crave novelty. Repetition deadens our response to activities, even those that bring us pleasure. Changing your environment can be the cure for this. A new town means new places to explore, new experiences, and new adventures. When approached with the right attitude, moving your home can be the thing that wakes up a repetition-addled brain.

Improving Your Circumstances

Moving affords us the chance to improve a number of aspects of our lives. We can let go of the things that cause us stress. For Joy, it was buying a smaller house. In her former town, she and her family lived in a 4000 sq. foot home. It was much more space than the family of four needed, and the mortgage was steep. Just the thought of keeping every room clean exhausted her. She found herself becoming intolerant of any mess, and she and her husband were fighting about money. The move allowed them to downsize into a less expensive and more manageable home. She no longer felt overwhelmed and the money problems were solved.
Finances aren’t the only things that can improve. Health can improve with a change from a fast-paced, polluted city to a cleaner, smaller town. Those with seasonal affective disorder benefit from a move to a sunnier locale, and those with allergies find relief in arid climates.
While stressful for children, moving can improve their circumstances as well. A new school means new opportunities and new friends. It can mean an escape from bullies. With the right support, they might find themselves much happier in a new location.

Dealing with Stress

That said, moving is still is stressful for everyone involved. It will take time to see benefits and the logistics can feel overwhelming. However, there are steps we can take to minimize the strain. It is important to give yourself time to prepare and organize. Make to-do-lists and break things down into manageable steps. Enlist help with childcare. Remember to practice self-care, eat well, and do your best to get a reasonable amount of sleep.
After arriving, give yourself time. Don’t feel the need to do everything ready at once. Take a break from unpacking to walk the neighborhood and find a new favorite restaurant. Find ways to meet people, but remind yourself that developing new relationships takes time and commitment.
As Joy related her moving experiences, I could feel my shoulders begin to relax. I realized that this move could be an opportunity. With the right attitude, it would mean a fresh start for all of my family members and a chance to truly improve.

Thursday, 29 August 2019

Enjoying the End of Summer


Although it seems like the summer just began, as it happens every year, summer is unfortunately coming to a close. As the days are beginning to get shorter (although they are still quite long!) it is inevitable that the warm weather will begin to cease and that for young people school is right around the corner. However, there are still some crucial weeks left of August and it is important to soak up the final days before the end of the sunny season. There is a myriad of excellent ways to enjoy the last few weeks of summer. A few of these suggestions are listed below:

Enjoy Barbecues with Family and Friends

While the end of the summer is on its way, it is certainly not gone yet! As the weather is still hot in August, you can definitely still enjoy yourself. There is no better way to spend your time in the hot weather than by having a barbecue with your closest friends and family. The summer season is an excellent time for grilling meats, playing outdoor games like bocce and disc golf, and relaxing with your social circle. Set up your backyard or patio area with chairs and tables (the great debate between plastic and wood folding tables is very real for which is better for barbecues!), and assemble your companions for an August barbecue.

Enjoy the Outdoors  
There is no time like the summer to enjoy the outdoors. The weather is at its prime during this season and it is important to take advantage of it before the colder weather begins in the fall! There is a multitude of ways to enjoy the outdoors during the summer. Some of these include camping, hiking, spending time at a lake, going to the beach, playing sports, and so much more! There are millions of ideas that you come up with to try and enjoy the outdoors before the gorgeous summer weather disappears! A truly awesome way to enjoy the outdoors is to go boating – whether you know how to sail, drive a motorboat, or just want to kayak or canoe, this is an activity that can really only be enjoyed during the summer.

Spend Some Time Reflecting on Your Summer
A great way to truly enjoy the end of the summer is to sit back and reflect on your summer. As it is only a few short months throughout the year, you want to be sure that you enjoy yourself, and there is no better way to ensure that you had a good time than by reflecting and looking back on your summer. Think about all of the fun and exciting activities that you partook in, different places that you visited, and any other activities that you truly enjoyed. Understanding what you loved about the summer season will definitely help you appreciate it when the weather is colder and you no longer have such an abundance of free time that can be spent soaking up the sun.

Final Thoughts
The summer is truly one of the best times of the year. The majority of people enjoy spending time in the warm weather and the summer is obviously the best time to do this! As the summer is coming to its end it is important to take advantage of these last few weeks in order to truly accept that it will be cold in a short span of time. As long as you remember to enjoy barbecues with family and friends, enjoy the outdoors, and spend some time reflecting on your summer, you are sure to have an amazing finale to your summertime season!

Wednesday, 28 August 2019

15 Psychological Facts That Will Blow Your Mind!

How Picking the Right Calling Can Absolutely Change Your Life

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One quick way to find out if your current job and lifestyle are aligned with your passion is to ask the simple question, "If money suddenly weren't an issue, what would I want to do every day?".
That's actually a very simply question with profound implications for striking the perfect work/life balance.
While there's still something to be said for putting in the hours and working hard, the interesting thing is that the highest flying entrepreneurs don't feel as though they're working when they arrive at the office.

Why's that? Because they're so passionate about what they do, and their livelihood is so entwined with their reason for springing out of bed every morning, that they often find a lack of distinction between work, leisure and pleasure.
The concept of work as work fades away as their job becomes a true calling and their livelihood more aligned with their passions, curiosity and growth.

Work the Right Way and Have Fun Doing It 

The really interesting thing about finding the right job is that the externals might not change all that much to an outside observer but the change in the way that you relate to what you're doing can be night and day.
You might be putting in the same amount of hours every week and have similar expectations at the beginning…yet receive totally different results depending on how that job relates to your values and what you really want to be doing with your life.

Align Your Efforts With Your Ambitions 

Work should ideally be something that excites you and presents daily challenges for growth and self development.
When your efforts are aligned with the right role and your work's in the right environment, you'll probably also find that the amount of hours that you put in daily, weekly, monthly and yearly become almost irrelevant since you're making a real impact and having fun doing it.
Doing what you really want to be doing, in other words, can make work feel like play and encourage you to put in the extra time and effort without any kind of outside coercion or reinforcement: You genuinely want to create the best end product you can.
Great questions to ask yourself, if you're unsure whether you've found the right calling are: "Would I be here even if I weren't getting paid as much?," and "Does this job make me excited to get out of bed in the morning?".
These quick checkins really help to rule out the possibility that you're doing the job simply for compensation or to "get by," and that you've actually found your purpose.

What Research Findings Say About Your True Calling 

Meta-studies collecting five dozen independent studies together actually were able to distill down what make a dream job with off-the-charts job satisfaction into about a half-dozen factors.
So, do you want to know the results? They actually indicate that pay or passion alone aren't good enough!
For a job to be a dream job and your true calling it effectively needs to offer you the chance to regularly collaborate with supportive peers, commit to tasks that taps into your unique talents, and engage in workLink that puts you in a flow state every day.
The whole idea of "flow" or being in a zone is a concept taken from psychology that basically means you're doing work that you find completely engaged, happy, productive, creative and fulfilled doing.
For that to happen you need to be doing something that gives you that sweet spot between challenge, variety, enjoyment, freedom and the chance to grow further.

Tuesday, 27 August 2019

Jim Rohn- Goals & Dreams become magnetic (personal development)

Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction

Like love, attraction is one of the feelings which has a strong drive experienced by human nature. There are many forces in the universe like nuclear, gravitational, magnetic forces, etc and their scientific laws. Like these, we have other drives which influence human nature like love, lust, desire, hatred, attraction, etc. What is the law of attraction? And how humans benefit from this drive? Let us see….
We are attracted to many things in life like riches, luxuries, beauty, food, etc. The attraction comes from our thinking, perception, feelings, etc. There is an old saying “we become what we think”. In order to achieve something in life, the first and foremost step is to think clearly about what we want to achieve. This is called the power of thinking or the power of manifestation. To manifest means to have a clear sight and perception of what we want in life or what we desire.
Everything starts with a thought. There is a saying by Napolean Hill in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich”; which says “Thoughts Are Things”. Many people do not understand its profundity and for someone, it may look like a nonsensical statement or even an absurd one. But for a success-conscious individual it is a powerful statement and within it contains life’s most precious secret.

For example, the people like Wright brothers, Bill Gates who invented and innovated great things were able to achieve success by their thoughts in their first step. They made their thoughts a reality by which today we are the beneficiaries of their hard struggle. Imagine, if the Wright brothers did not have thought about flying, today we won't be traveling in airplanes. History proves that some simple thoughts became the greatest inventions in the world. Those people understood the law of attraction.
We know that opposite poles attract in the case of magnetism but on the contrary, the law of attraction states that similar things attract to one another like the saying “birds of a feather flock together.”
The law of attraction functions like this: A thought attracts other similar thoughts which attract other people’s similar thoughts. These collective thoughts attract the circumstances which are in harmony with these thoughts. These circumstances finally lead to the things in the physical form desired by the individuals through their thoughts. Thus thoughts/desires attract the things in physical form and they become reality. The strength of the pull of attraction of thoughts makes them become real.
Now let us see that if there is any scientific analysis for the law of attraction. According to science, the whole universe is made of energy which can not be destroyed nor created. The things in thoughts and at that level, they are nothing but random energy waiting to be “assembled”. It is just like electricity in general which we can’t see but we experience beyond shadows of doubt. Thoughts are some kind of energies which are in primitive stage and each energy has a frequency. Just like radio antennas radiate frequencies, the thought energies also radiate frequencies. The level of these frequencies determine the kind of physical manifestation and the circumstances that lead to reality. Low thought frequencies correspond to low physical expression while high thought frequencies correspond to things, people and circumstances similar to that frequencies.
That is the reason, we have the saying like how much more one desires, that much more they try to make it happen. The key to success in this regard is to keep in mind that thoughts are as real as any physical thing and holding them long enough for their manifestation in reality.
So go ahead. Think yourself into riches, a new home, a new car, an opulent lifestyle, happiness, meaningful relationships, peace of mind, etc whatever good you desire. You are limited to the kind of thoughts you hold in your mind. Be cautious about what you think because we should attract good and positive things but not negative thoughts. The Law of Attraction does work for both kinds of thoughts. All you need to do is check your thoughts and remember what you sow is what you reap.
Use this power of attraction to fill your life with good things and abundant happiness. With good thoughts, attract good things and manifest a great life!

Monday, 26 August 2019

4 Steps To Make People Instantly Like You

10 Hobbies You Can Start In These Vacations That Will Prove Productive!

10 Hobbies You Can Start in these Vacations

Every individual has some interests and hobbies they have left behind with time and other commitments and also some because of the kind of financial burden some of these hobbies can be. But wait, we have a solution to this. With these 10 DIY hobbies you’d not only do what you love but also save up on that extra expenditure.
  1. Gardening : It gets you going, gives you good worthy benefits like free vegetables that are ten times anything you'll get in a shop. This vacation you can have your own organic natural garden and get pesticide free vegetables and organic products for yourself and your family. You can simply plant various saplings and blossoms so your place looks prettier than before. Needless to say this way you will go further close to mother nature!
  2. Cooking : So if you know how to cook daily essential, this vacation learn to cook something different. Try your hands at a different cuisine or maybe multiple dishes from all over the world and get creative with some awesome DIY food crafts which will help you decorate your food and the crockery too. Also try having dinner parties and cook everything you managed to learn. Afterall cooking is an art that will save your life when you are away from the conform of your home and in a condition where you need to prepare your own food. 
  3. Scrapbooking : Anyone who cherishes collecting and capturing moments forever will love scrapbooking. Its also a great DIY craft idea for gifting. Put in all the effort with your own hands and you can make completely flawless scrapbooks for your loved ones.
  4. Stitch Crafts : This vacation indulge in making some really quirky and useful runners for your sofa’s and dining tables or end up making cool tee-shirts for yourself and your family. Stitch craft can be so much fun. Experiment with all the junk at your place like broken buttons, little cloth pieces and left over laces to create some magical utilities with your own hands.
  5. Blogging : Write about anything you’ve experienced be it travel, philosophy or food. Blogging is one hell of a hobby you can continue all your life and vent out everything you’d want the world to know. There are numerous bloggers who are making even their living out of blogging. You could be the next blogging star in the line?
  6. Travelling : Wanderlust can make you explore and discover so much more in the world and vacations are the best time to travel, experience sunny days at the beach or maybe chilly winters in the mountains.
  7. Pick your instrument : If you love music you can pick musical instruments. Every time is the right time to learn music. Guitar, Violin, Piano or the Xylophone, take coaching and be a pro at it.
  8. DIY Art and Crafts : This is the most easy and low cost hobby anyone can have. Use the internet to check out awesome techniques to create wealth from best out of waste creative craft ideas. Some ideas could be decorating candles, making some really pretty photo frames or t-light holders etc.
  9. Physical fitness : Sounds more like a compulsion to keep the body fit but some people really like the idea of it and can pursue it as their interest or hobby. Give into it with all the dedication and enjoy how vacations transform your body for the good.
  10. Organic Products : We really lack some wholesome organic all natural body products in the markets now. So why not create some? Using vegetables and fruits at home, we can make some really healthy face packs and scrubs which not only benefit the skin but also saves us good money.
With all these amazing hobbies you can definitely make the best use of your time, enhance your skills, relive and enjoy doing your childhood favorites once again all over.Link to article

Sunday, 25 August 2019

How to Beat Self-Doubt in 5 Seconds

Work at Home Moms – 10 Tips for Time Management

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I am a writer and a mom of two.  As a writer, my deadlines are unpredictable and also it is difficult to plan how much time will be taken to complete an article.  My children are aged 6 and 9 years and have a hectic schedule themselves.  Sometimes, it feels that being a secretary to the whole family, including my husband, is my primary job, as there are classes, playdates, projects, social plans, etc to be managed for them.  Apart from that, I need to ensure their physical well-being, run the household efficiently, manage finances and not to mention once in a while plan an exciting dinner for everyone.
Working at home has made truly appreciate the art of time management.  The following tips have helped me achieve sanity in midst of this chaos.

Buy a planner
A planner is the most important ‘equipment’ to manage your schedule.  I have a planner which gives me enough space to write a list of things to do for each day and also mark the future events.
Can’t stress enough on planning
I usually use Sundays to plan my week ahead in great detail right from which sections of writing I will complete, to when will I go for my grocery shopping, to plan the activities of my kids.  This way I know how the day will mostly pan out.  It is essential to not overly pack your day with a long list of things to do every day.

Plan B
However, you cannot always hope that your schedule will work to the T.  If you are falling short of time it is best to focus on the critical work to be done.  Also, keep some free time in your schedule so as to accommodate any ‘spillover’.

Limit your unproductive activities
It is important to call up your friends, watch TV, check your phones, etc but limit them to the scheduled time for them.  Doing those things especially during your work time is very inefficient.

Put an alarm
I sometimes do suffer as I cannot remember to do a particular thing at a particular time.  Setting the alarm for activities like giving medicine, send something special to school or call up someone at a particular time has vastly reduced my ‘oops’ moments.

Work time
Depending upon the working hours you need to put in every day, it is best to schedule your work at a time when there are minimal distractions, and your focus is optimum like when they are away at school or on a playdate.  However, at a time when the children are back from school, it is best to do activities like doing laundry or cooking as it is possible to do these chores while talking to them.
Schedule Household chores
It is not possible to clean up the whole house every day or not clean at all.  It works well to plan which section of the house will be tidied in which day.   Similarly, have a day set for payment of bills or cook something special.
Ask for help
Always remember, you cannot do everything, and it is ok to ask your husband or others for help.

Make children independent
In case your children are above 5 years, it is important to let them manage some of their tasks themselves such as pack their school bags, get ready for school themselves or clean up after them.  It will make them independent and you will have more time.

Take time for yourself
Lastly, it is also important to schedule time for yourself to keep you fresh and energetic to help take on the challenges of a ‘work at home’ mom.   Do factor in a holiday every week and it may not necessarily always be a Sunday.  I sometimes do like to take time off on Monday as no one is around to disturb me, it is easier to shop or pamper myself.
The above tips have reduced my stress immensely and it gives me great satisfaction as I strike off the work that I have accomplished.

How to Take Charge of Your Life - Jim Rohn Personal Development

Saturday, 24 August 2019

Police Officer's Final Act of Kindness Caught on Tape Before Dying.flv

Strain Relief

We all know that we live in a society filled with stress. We've heard about it from many, many sources, over the course of many, many years. It's hard to pick up a magazine without seeing an article or two about "Hot Tips" for relieving stress or "balancing" our lives.
It's true, we do live in a stressful society, and a culture of seemingly constant admonitions to "try harder," "never quit," "become more efficient," "do more with less," and "good is no longer good enough." Not only are we busier than we've ever been, with endless details demanding attention, but these days simply doing what you're supposed to do isn't enough. To be really on top of things, we have to do many things all at once. We have to "multitask" (I personally believe that multitasking is simply doing many things poorly, but talking yourself into feeling good about it anyway).
The answer, as you might expect (and as you've probably heard over and over again), is RELAXATION. We seem to know it, but do we really do it? Do we really put it into practice in a deep and meaningful way? For most of us the answer is "no."

I think part of the problem is a misunderstanding of the true concept of relaxation. Deep relaxation in a therapeutic sense is not merely the absence of doing other stuff. It is not simply how you feel when there is no immediate or pressing problem. It is not watching TV with a cold beer (though it is not necessarily a bad thing, and also has its place).
True therapeutic relaxation is the process by which we allow our bodies to reset themselves to a therapeutic, healthy baseline, and experience a deep and pervasive sense of peace. It is a process that is intentional and focused.  For most of us, that just doesn't happen when we kick off our shoes and watch the game, or "decompress" from the workday. Even though it's fun and we might feel a little better, we may still have a "stress orientation," that is, we still worry, we continue to have things on our mind, we continue to be hyper vigilant and our nervous systems are still in some state of activation.
Further, the problem with stress a orientation is that, as with any other facet of our lives, behaviors that we engage in over and over again become ingrained habits. They become our baseline.  When stress orientation becomes our baseline, we experience strain in response. In mechanical terms, stress is the amount of external force applied to a material or object.  Strain is the measure of the effect that stress has upon that material or object. For us, strain is not simply something that just keeps us from feeling as good as we could. It is physically damaging, and potentially downright dangerous.
The physiologic effects of strain include heart disease, diabetes, asthma, obesity, depression, anxiety, gastrointestinal problems, Alzheimer's disease, chronic inflammation, premature aging and even premature death. Scary, huh?
Clearly, even though we have probably been desensitized to these topics through almost constant exposure, stress and strain are not things to be taken lightly, or ignored. Our health and longevity depend on it.
While it is not difficult, ameliorating strain and countering the effects of stress do require intention.  It is not simply a matter of "chilling out." It is a matter of purposely allowing ourselves to let go and reintroducing ourselves to peaceful existence.
There are many online sources for meditation and eliciting our bodies' natural relaxation response which may be helpful in this. A simple online search will likely yield all that you will need. You may also find some therapeutic value in the concept of a Vacation of the Mind. While we may not always be able to change our circumstances, we always have the power to control how we respond. That is the beauty of a Vacation of the Mind. If you have an appreciation for the tropical, you may also enjoy Tiki Tranquility

Friday, 23 August 2019

9 Steps to Elevate Your Thoughts and Success

Have you ever measured the huge power thoughts have on your life? Why do we so frequently forget that making a healthy mindset is stronger than any other trait of human power? Our mind doesn’t know limits if we don’t create them, and you know what the best part is? We can think the way we choose to.

1. Self-help, initial step

Minor optimistic steps can make a big variation in eradicating depression around. The first step usually feels the toughest, but this is the fastest and coolest ways to make a start. Phase by phase you can reach in the way of higher goals.
2. Praise yourself
Finally, give yourself a special treat. When you've realised that you have done something good, emphasize your success by treating yourself with an acupressure, a walk with your close one, a concert, a meal out, a bag, or whatever tiny gift makes you glad.
3. Try to forgive others
When we grasp a complaint, we are the ones that feel the anger. They may have affected your pain in the past, try not to permit it to remain in present or continues in the future, it only disturbs you, not them. Find a solution to forgive as they are not worthy of your time.
4. Influence the mind
These Sources are skilled of bringing you great success, but there’s often a part of our brain that declines, to consider it, so we must convince it with confirmation. Our opinions are like a beam light, whose energy ray can be engrossed on one point. Similarly, the strength of our thoughts follows the energy, which is available everywhere, triggering it into summarizing in a useful form and turns your bad day good. Energy follows concentration. Success attracts more success, and happiness attracts more happiness.
5. No more doubts
We continually rely on something. Doubt is just a rumored thing. No more, no less. There is no signal to advise it will happen. By doubting, we used to grow our own trees. Assuming that, this will be not working, is really a very tough principle and, as a result, we encounter indeed this limitation. How about changing your mind? Have faith! Believe in your success! According to scientists, our brain needs to create new routes and get rid of the “not used” ones.
6. Reveal your thoughts to someone
Spend your time with trusted people and have face to face conversation to share what you are feeling. An emotional association can get you through this hard time.
7. Discover your own goal
Utilise your energy and time hunting a goal you really want from the deep core of your heart. Don’t remember the plans and wishes of the persons around you. This is your life and you are living yours, not theirs.
8. Be mobile and active
Good, moderate physical exercise inhibits you from getting ill. It works on a number of measures but mostly physical activity enhance your immune system cells to fight against diseases. You should do this for at least half an hour and it would help to alleviate depression and worry. And after you have done, you feel more influential, attentive and energetic.
9. Feel and enjoy the nature
Leave your chair or workspace for a few minutes. Have a walk and just immerse in the spring sun and warmth. Enjoy the sounds of the birds and nature opening up their buds after the cold winter. By doing like this, there will be a beam of hope, easier to think optimistically and start looking for practical solutions, then, later on, you can return to that with fresh eyes and a calmer mind.

These are the golden rules for livingLink and loving your life. It makes you more active and less stressful life. It makes you calmer and happier.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Self Improvement by Stephen Covey

Thursday, 22 August 2019

If You Struggle With Anxiety, This Mind Trick Will Change Your Life | Mel Robbins

Have You the Confidence to Speak Up?

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There are times when we could kick ourselves aren't there! There was something we wanted to say, an opportunity to join in and contribute, but we hesitated and the moment passed. Irritatingly someone else may have even then inadvertently offered our pearls of wisdom and received a great response. If only we'd had the confidence to speak up!
At work finding the confidence to speak up can be a mixed blessing. If we put ourselves out there, with all that it entails will we then be regarded as someone who doesn't toe the line, a trouble maker or a know-it-all? Some people fear voicing opinions at work; might there be reprisals, could it jeopardise their promotion prospects, put a 'black mark' next to their name? As an employer it's important to provide an environment where staff feel safe to share ideas and concerns, knowing they'll be taken seriously.
Or, even worse, might something said be perceived as stupid or inappropriate and result in being ridiculed? Meetings and presentations can be especially vulnerable situations for someone who's feeling low on confidence. The prospect of standing up and having to speak out loud can be daunting.
In family and social settings many people prefer to avoid confrontation and keep quiet or go along with things, choosing it as the safest option. And, indeed, there are times when smiling and saying nothing is a preferred course of action. Not everything needs to be debated or analysed. But over time not speaking up can change a relationship's dynamics and affect its balance. Having open, respectful channels of communication can mean that nothings simmering or left unsaid and everyone feels included and valued, able to say what's on their minds.
The potential downside is that speaking up in close relationships can have long-term implications. Things said cannot be unsaid and may be taken out of context or used in future situations. Whether hurtful things are said deliberately or not it can make for ongoing unpleasantness. Or what about those times when we do speak up offering a valid point of view or when we don't agree and then find we're labelled difficult, awkward and uncompromising.
Tips for finding the confidence to speak up;
- When you've a meeting or presentation on the horizon improve your confidence by practicing speaking to a fake audience. Also this is a worthwhile exercise for when you've an anticipated difficult conversation ahead. Identify your key points and say them out loud so you're rehearsed, clear and au fait with the gist of what you want to say. Some people like to record themselves so that they know what they sound like and can refine how authoritatively they come across.
- Make time for things you do well and boost your confidence. That way, if you're stuck in a difficult situation at home, school or work you've got activities where you receive recognition, positive feedback and satisfaction. Could sport, a hobby or volunteering bring some happiness and joy into your life and result in improving your quality of life?
- Are people in your life drains or radiators? Some people drain your confidence and joy for life. They only ever see the bad, cannot be supportive, are maybe jealous of you and your enthusiasm and drive. If you can't avoid them be sure instead to protect yourself from too much exposure and minimise the time you spend in their company. Refuse to join them in negative or draining exchanges. Try to mix with people who radiate positive qualities like confidence, who share your outlook, who are equally committed to their dreams and encourage and support you in yours.
- Occasionally challenge your point of view by inviting other perspectives and discussing any contentious issues you may have to deal with. There may be another side to the story. Be prepared to consider different points of view, constructive criticism and feedback. A clearer thought process can improve your confidence.
- In disagreement situations own how you're feeling rather than blame others. It gives you a more confident stance. 'When this happens I feel', is far more constructive and less antagonistic than, 'you make me feel', which can cause the other person to feel under attack and become defensive. Avoid using lots of examples. They can distract and generate a merry-go-round of explanations, justifications and counter-claims.
- A neutral place is often a good idea when there's a difficult conversation to be had. It keeps a discussion on track and avoids it becoming loud or escalating out of control. You can stay calm and hold onto what you have to say without losing confidence or being concerned at things 'kicking off'.
- Sometimes a mediator can be useful, but has to be someone who both parties respect. Yes, there are professional negotiators available, but sometimes a trusted friend, neighbour, colleague or religious leader is able to do a good job and keep discussions relevant.
If confidence issues regularly surface consider hypnotherapy to deal with associated matters. Some people fear confrontation, want to be liked, are wary of upsetting others. Therapy can help you deal with any background factors like childhood influences or previous relationships, remedy underlying concerns, and enable you to move forward, so finding ways to speak up calmly, appropriately and with confidence.
Susan Leigh, counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support.
She's author of 3 books, 'Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact', '101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday' and 'Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain', all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.
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