How to move on from a very bad break up even if one loves the other person still?Attain Self-Realization As Soon As You Can
The first thing you need to do is attain Self-Realization!!
Let’s assume there is pitch darkness in your house, such that you cannot see anything ahead of you. What happens to you then?
You don’t feel nice, isn’t it?! You experience some kind of suffocation, suffering and worry within you. Moreover, every time you try to move forward, you end up clashing with tables, chairs, etc.
And when there is full light?
You do not clash with anything. There is no suffering, there are no worries, no doubts, no stress, right?! So, when there is full light, you feel happiness. And all your relatives and the near and dear ones beside you also feel happy!
Similarly, within all of us, there is the Soul, which is our real Self. Our Soul is the direct light of knowledge. Soul is full of infinite knowledge and infinite vision; but it is currently covered with layers of ignorance. For this reason, the darkness of ignorance prevails within us. And owing to this darkness, we happen to clash with people, we experience confusion, worries and stress.
However, through Akram Vignan, in a scientific experiment of the separation of ‘I’ and ‘my’, Gnani breaks those layers of ignorance and enlightens our Soul. Consequently, the direct light starts. And through the direct light, we experience the Self. Our intellect is an indirect light that comes via the medium of our ego, whereas Soul is the direct light. When this direct light is invoked, we know our real Self.
After knowing your real Self, you will get a better solution to your problems! And this experience of the Soul shall affect the other people around you also, very positively. You can read more about Akram Vignan and Self-Realization on the link mentioned above.
Start doing pratikraman.
And until you attain Self-Realization, you may start off doing pratikraman internally. This means, you recall every mistake that has happened by you so far towards that person, and for each mistake, you remember God and do:
1.Apology. Confess that ‘I have done so and so mistake.’
2.Repentance. Ask for forgiveness that, I am sorry, I made this mistake.’
3.Vow... You decide not to do this mistake ever again.
Do you know the break-up in this life is the effect of the atikraman (mistake) that has happened by you against that person in your past life? If you do pratikraman in the presence of whichever God you worship, the mistakes shall get erased. Repeated pratikramans wipe off the many errors that have been caused in our relationship.
To break free from all kind of feelings that you are going through right now, keep asking for forgiveness from God for the mistakes that you recall. If you’ve seen any fault or negative of that person, that too is a mistake for which you are liable to do pratikraman. You can also directly connect with the Pure Soul (God) residing inside that person, and ask for strength from that Soul to not repeat the mistakes ever again. This will very easily help dissolve any negativity or feeling of guilt that may exist inside you. The other person may not even be aware that you are doing this, yet you will notice the positive changes within you, and within that person too! Hence, continue to ask for forgiveness from within.
Param Pujya Dadashri, an enlightened being has declared,
“If any couple is on the verge of getting divorced, I will reunite them in one hour if you bring them to me. I will mend them in one hour so that they remain together again. All these problems are merely fears due to a lack of understanding. Many couples that were separated have now been happily reunited.”
This statement made by Dadashri stands true even today as many married couples are living happily after meeting Pujya Deepakbhai. Why don’t you try too?
Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.